The diagram above is from the Children’s Hospital of Minnesota.
With the recent celebrity attention to hymens, I have been meaning to write some thoughts on the matter. For the past 10 years, I have been working as a child abuse pediatrician, taking care of hundreds of girls who have been victims of sexual assault. Those of us in this line of work know a lot about hymens, the female anatomy, and so-called virginity.
So here’s my PSA:
Virginity is NOT a physical entity. It is a social construct, a tool by which women have been kept powerless and shamed for centuries.
“But what about the hymen?” you ask. Doesn’t it “pop” or “break” when a woman has sex for the first time?
Look at the diagram above. The hymen is simply a thin bit of tissue, a vestigial remnant that sits at the entrance of the vagina. It is absolutely useless (unless you a guinea pig. Their hymens do regrow for protection and recede when the female is in heat. To quote Todd Akin, female guinea pigs can actually “shut the whole thing down.” But humans aren’t guinea pigs).
Here are some facts about the hymen:
The hymen has no purpose. Zero. None. Nada.
Hymens look like hair scrunchies, and much like hair scrunchies, they are stretchy. They stretch to fit a penis. They really stretch to fit a baby.
The hymen is ALWAYS open. Baby girls are born with holes. On rare occasions, girls are born without openings. This is a medical condition called an imperforate hymen, and it requires surgery to fix.
If hymens weren’t open, girls would not be able to have periods. That’s why imperforate hymens need surgery to make an opening.
Studies show that women who have had babies and women who have never had sex have identical looking hymens (and we know that pregnancy did not occur from immaculate conception in these cases).
Only 50% of women bleed at first intercourse. (think technique issues).
If injury does occur from sexual activity, it does not mean that anything got “broken”. The vulvar tissue is the same as what is inside your mouth. If you bite the inside of your mouth, it may swell or even bleed. But a couple of days later, it will be completely healed. A woman’s vulva, and hymen, does the same.
So why is the myth of virginity one worth busting? Well first of all, it’s a bunch of BS, and women need to know the truth about our bodies. Secondly, women around the world are still subjected to virginity testing and other intrusive and dangerous practices to prove, ensure, or “reinstate” the mythical virginity. Third of all, this:
A 13 year-old girl sits on my examination table. Her uncle started raping her when she was 7 years old. I tell her that she looks healthy, and that she is going to be okay. She asks me, “Am I still a virgin?”
I say yes, and I tell her why.
Because she looks just like any other girl her age.
And because virginity is not a physical state.
It’s not something that can ever be taken from you.
It’s a concept, a mental and emotional decision you make to give of yourself when you are ready, and not when someone decides to be violent with your body.
She cries, her whole body shaking, with tears of relief. Then she dries her tears and smiles for a new beginning.
So let’s stop the shame and humiliation. Enough is enough.
Tarcoteca: **Convocatoria COP25 NO! No al Capitalismo Verde. 2 al 13 dic 2019 Madrid.**
"Fuente - Todas las balas serán devueltas. COP25 NO - La Voz como Arma - 12.11.2019De cara a la próxima cumbre climática que se celebrará en Madrid el mes que viene (después de haber sido cancelada su agenda en el territorio chileno por las revueltas soci…"
the post and this toot disagree in tense (the toot indicating that this is a completed event, the post an ongoing one), and I haven't received any such e-mail yet. should I be worried, or is the toot just misleading?
That box looks pretty cool, speaking as an enthusiast of cool boxes, I encourage you to make your packaging as awesome as possible, people notice that these days thanks to the popularity of "unboxing" reviews.
My thinkpad X1c came in an awesome box, the thing actually moved like a popup book. People notice 😀
long term boxes are awesome also, ones designed with nice interiors, and perhaps functional decorative items like a cloth for the screen etc.
Story time: 12 years ago at 24C3, CCC rejected a submission by one "Julien D'Assangé" titled "Wikileaks is a community project about leaking documents from all kinds of sources". Our admin notes: "has been moved to the Workshop Area. […] we'll get a paper for Datenschleuder" 🙈
Japan's Hayabusa-2 probe will leave its orbit around a distant asteroid and head for Earth on Wednesday after an unprecedented mission, carrying samples that could shed light on the origins of the Solar System.
If there actually >are< such things as "AI", "smart" "app" and "cloud" then diseases may as well be caused by curses. Encouraging pseudo-concepts spread by liars and marketers doesn't make one 'cutting-edge' or 'hip'; it makes one look gullible and uncaring for facts...
Many community-based Linux distributions have made the decision to switch to systemd, and most of those decisions were accompanied by lengthy, sometimes acrimonious mailing-list discussions. No distribution had a harder time of it than Debian, though, where arguments raged through much of 2013 before the Debian Technical Committee decided on systemd in early 2014. Thereafter, it is fair to say, appetite for renewing the init-system discussion has been low. Now, though, the topic has returned to the fore and it would appear that the project is heading toward a new general resolution to decide at what level init systems other than systemd should be supported.
We got this in the vicinity; everyone (almost) knows someone like that.
The late @hintjens always said this. "The data suggests that toxic employees drive other employees to leave an organization faster and more frequently" Read his book "Social Architecture". https://t.co/9AQ5kVf0ql
Portal Libertario OACA: **21 de noviembre, presentación del libro 'Barrionalismo'**
"Salón de actos de la FAL (C/. Peñuelas 41) a las 19:30 h. Contaremos con la presencia del autor, Luis de la Cruz. Barrio, fiesta, motín, barricada, desposesión material de la memoria, gentrificación ¿sin hipsters?, urbanismo defensivo, asambleas, …"
"FRAND" is 4 (or 5) lies in a row, compacted into an acronym
Of course. Commons law. ...but FRAND used to mean Free Rand = RAND-0. Then they said FRAND = Fair RAND. No one could explain the difference between FRAND and RAND. It is not fair and unreasonable discriminates open source implementations. What a waste...
Yeah, I'm actually kind of tempted by the $2800 model. I don't know of any non-gigantic Windows laptop for that price with an i9, 1TB SSD, and a screen over 15 inches. But I can't actually justify spending that much on a computer right now.
El Libertario (VE): **Internacional de Federaciones Anarquistas en solidaridad con el movimiento anarquista en Grecia**
"IFA-IAF La Comisión de Relaciones de la Internacional de Federaciones Anarquistas (CRIFA) apoya a la llamada para solidaridad internacional lanzada por lxs compañerxs de la Organización Política Anarquista (APO-Grecia), …"
Today, we are told that the bigness of Big Tech giants was inevitable: the result of "network effects." For example, once everyone you want to talk to is on Facebook, you can't be convinced to use another, superior service, because all the people you'd use that service to talk to are still on...